If you and I lived in a movie or TV series, then identifying some villain in our life would be as easy as shelling pears – after all, every time they appeared, that very strange, disturbing music would sound. Or, for example, in the classic epic fantasy, where all the bad guys, with rare exceptions, are ugly and accompany every second line with some demonic laughter.
But you and I live in real life, so these successful ways of determining not-so-nice persons, unfortunately, do not work. On the other hand, this is for the better – after all, the “villainous” musical theme could also be turned on when we appear in the frame ourselves… Be that as it may, people still have to rely on their own experience and the advice of other folks – such as, for example, in this collection of opinions from netizens.
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#1
For me it has to be when they treat animals really poorly.
#2
They dump garbage out of their moving vehicles.
#3
When they are rude to service people like waiters or cashiers. I think it shows a lack of empathy.
What else distinguishes real life from heroic fantasy is that our world does not accept pure light or dark, and each of us living, in fact, has those very notorious shades of gray. And not just fifty, but many more. In the end, a person can have a great appearance, have an amazing mind and/or brilliant wit – but at the same time, in some aspects of their personality, turn out to be not the nicest person at all. But how to evaluate and accept them at the same time is a personal choice for each of us.
#4
When you’re having an argument with someone and they start saying things just to hurt you because they don’t have a valid argument.
Yeaaah this ones personal
#5
“All my exes were crazy.” Really now?? Like you were the victim in all of those??
#6
They’re an “Alpha”.
By and large, the collection of opinions and ‘red flags’ that we present to you today is not so much a “universal determinant of scoundrels”, but also a questionnaire that can help you understand and realize what dark sides of your mind you personally have. In other words, if you find yourself in at least a few items on this list, it makes sense to seriously think about it – maybe your own behavior isn’t the best?
“Keep in mind that asking yourself, ‘Am I a bad person?’ isn’t unusual. Simply considering this question shows you have some measure of self-awareness and empathy,” writes Crystal Raypole, a writer and editor in Healthline. “If you try to avoid causing harm, that’s a good sign. If you can acknowledge you have some room for improvement – and who doesn’t? – you’re taking a promising first step towards positive change.”
#7
They can’t handle being wrong
#8
When the rules apply to everyone except them.
#9
They litter.
If we started to consider this topic with examples from culture, then the hallmark of a good story has always been considered character development, when a character starts the story as one person, and ends as… well, if not someone completely different, then they certainly have undergone some changes. In the end, almost any scoundrel can go their own way to reform. Just remember how disgusting Darth Vader looked at the beginning of Star Wars… oh, we hope this has not become a spoiler for anyone now.
#10
Not respecting shared spaces. Like, leaving garbage on a picnic table or leaving a shopping cart out.
#11
How they treat their significant other in front of other people
#12
When they still believe in racial stereotypes and look down on people because of their race
As Forrest Gump’s momma used to say, “life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” And when a new person comes into our life, there is always a chance that they will turn out to be not so good. And then, perhaps, this collection will be useful to you in some way. At least we modestly hope so. So please feel free to read and scroll it to the very end and add your own ‘red flags’ to expose a truly terrible person before that disturbing musical theme comes out…
#13
They don’t respect the people who clean up their s**t.
A coworker once made fun of National Custodian Day.
#14
Saying horrible things about people all the time.
#15
When they mock you for trying to lose weight or trying to improve yourself in general
#16
They talk about cheating on their partner in a bragging way like its something that makes them cooler.
#17
“bro look at this!” (Shows a minor achievement I’m proud of)
“Oh bro, that’s so easy I literally did that like a million times”
With all due disrespect, f**k yourself.
#18
Cheating.
No matter how nice someone acts, if they’re willing and capable of betraying anyone who intimately trusts them, they are absolute s**t.
Also, if she’ll cheat with you, she’ll cheat on you. Good luck with that, bro.
#19
They do not put shopping carts in the cart corral.
Demanding respect just because they are older.
Edit: or because they are family.
#21
When they say “f**k all my haters” when people are just giving them suggestions on how to be a decent human being
#22
They only talk about themselves and complain about every little thing. They also expect you to help them but they don’t give a damn when you’re in need.
Oh yeah and never apologising or being accountable for anything.
#23
They don’t let u speak. At all. They just keep talking over you countless times in a row.
#24
Complete lack of awareness of how their actions affect other people’s reactions
#25
If they don’t care about anyone or anything but themselves than that’s usually a pretty good indicator.
#26
They can’t stand different opinion
#27
When they constantly try to one up you in a conversation.
#28
If they treat family or staff members like s**t all the time
Edit: for the replies of examples of s****y families, responding to verbal abuse with more verbal abuse doesn’t solve anything, because verbal abuse is a sign that someone is a piece of s**t. So it’s not a good thing to stoop to someone’s level when they abuse you.
#29
– When they’re factually wrong but resort to deflection rather than stick to the subject
– ‘I did my own research’
– Mistreating animals
– Being unfriendly to waiters, shop employees etc.
– Heckling people for whatever reason
#30
Their adult children don’t talk to them. They don’t know their grandchildren.