When you care about someone, it’s easy to give them second chances. Maybe even more than they deserve. But eventually, there’s a breaking point.
One woman on Reddit found herself in an on-and-off relationship with a man who kept begging her to come back. She finally gave in, until the day he asked her for help with his phone. That’s when she discovered something he clearly forgot to delete: all the proof he was still cheating.
So, she got creative and came up with the perfect way to make sure he never forgot it. Keep reading to see how it all went down.
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Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship?
When you’re on the outside looking in, it can be easy to wonder why anyone would stay with someone who treats them poorly.
But for people inside the relationship, the answer isn’t so simple.
In fact, according to a YouGov survey, nearly 60% of people admitted to staying in unfulfilling relationships, many of them despite being lied to, dismissed, or even cheated on.
So why do we stay, even when we know we shouldn’t? Clinical psychologist Dr. Roxy Zarrabi offers 10 reasons that help explain what makes walking away so difficult.
1. You get hooked on the highs and lows
Toxic relationships often swing between good moments and really painful ones. Those rare highs, when things feel exciting or passionate, can become addictive, making the lows easier to ignore. Over time, this emotional rollercoaster can start to feel normal, even when it’s doing real damage.
2. It reopens old wounds
Sometimes, what keeps you stuck isn’t just the relationship, it’s what the relationship brings up. If your current partner triggers unhealed pain from past heartbreak or childhood, it might feel like you’re trying to “fix” something by staying, even when it’s unhealthy.
3. Your self-worth takes a hit
Toxic partners often erode your confidence slowly over time. If someone constantly judges or belittles you, it’s easy to start doubting your own value. Leaving means facing all those feelings, and that can feel harder than staying.
4. You blame yourself for everything
If you were made to feel like everything was your fault, guilt might keep you stuck. You start wondering if you could’ve done more, said less, or tried harder. That lingering “what if” can make it tough to fully let go.
5. You’re holding onto a fantasy
It’s easy to replay the good moments and block out the bad. But idealizing what the relationship used to be, or what you hoped it would become, makes it harder to accept that it’s time to move on.
6. You’ve become isolated from others
Toxic relationships often pull you away from friends or family, especially if your partner discouraged those connections. Without a strong support system, leaving can feel incredibly lonely and even more overwhelming.
7. You’ve lost touch with yourself
When you’re constantly putting someone else’s needs first, you start losing sight of your own. After the relationship ends, it can feel like you don’t even know who you are anymore, and that fear of rediscovery can keep you stuck.
8. The unknown feels scarier than the pain you know
Leaving means stepping into uncertainty. As hard as it is, some people choose the familiar pain over the scary unknown, because at least they know what to expect, even if it hurts.
9. You’re still keeping tabs on them
Whether it’s texting “just to check in” or stalking their socials, staying connected can reopen emotional wounds. It keeps you in limbo, hoping they’ll change, even as they show you they won’t.
10. Your ability to trust has taken a hit
After being hurt, it’s hard to trust anyone, including yourself. You start second-guessing your instincts and putting walls up, which makes healing and moving on feel even harder.
So before you judge someone for going back to a person who’s hurt them, or blame yourself for doing the same, try to approach it with compassion and understanding.
These moments are incredibly vulnerable, and support often plays a much bigger role than we realize. Reminding someone they’re not alone can be exactly what they need to find the courage to finally leave.
Readers backed her up, pointing out that the best part was walking away from the relationship for good
